All right, I’m just going to jump right in and rip the bandaid off with a spoiler alert on this blog post: I am very, very biased when it comes to this match-up, and not just because I’m a Virgo.
For whatever reason, I flock to Virgos like magnets pick up metal. And my experience has ranged from the best connection to the absolute worst. If it was my choice, I would put this pairing at a 1 for love and a 5 for friends, but I have to take into consideration that not everyone is going to share in my experiences when it comes to friendship and love.
For this blog, I had to reach out to my astrologist mother to aid in giving me a more unbiased opinion, which led to the result you’ll see here: 4 for friends and 2 for love. Combining my experience with the astrological reasons why this match-up could either flourish or fumble, let’s explore the connection in friendship, love, and life between two Virgos.
To start, let’s break down who we are. If you’re born between August 23rd and September 22nd, then you’ve probably been called anything from a perfectionist to an overthinker.
You’re a mutable sign, which means you’re flexible and adaptable, always down to go with the flow of the situations that present itself. However, as an earth sign, you retain a certain level of groundedness, and although you may have extroverted tendencies, you’re probably an introvert at heart.
The best way to differentiate the two? It’s not about how social you are! It’s about how you recharge. If you gain your energy from the people around you, then you’re an extrovert. But if you need to return home to your safe space to have a moment alone to reset your energy, then you’re an introvert, and that’s most likely you, Virgo. You love people, but you’re just as good at being alone.
You’re practical, dependable, and loyal and will seek genuine connections in your friendships and relationships with other people. You might have a guard up when you first meet someone, but as you lower it, you’ll let people into your life and not let them go. When you find something good, you want to keep it. Ruled by the planet Mercury, communication is your crutch in your friendships, both through becoming close with someone and solving any differences.
However, you hold high standards for yourself and the people in your life, and your perfectionist nature can often mean that you’re extra hard on yourself when things don’t go the way you expect. You enjoy stability as much as you enjoy new experiences and seek friends who also accomplish a balance of that.
Virgo and Virgo in Friendship
One of my best friends, Erin, is a Virgo, and I truly consider her family. We met when we both started an internship working with dolphins, and this shared interest started what is now a thirteen-year-old friendship. Not only will two Virgo friends share interests, like Erin and I, but you will have endless things to talk about.
Just keep in mind, that not all Virgos are identical. There’s a lot that affects who a person is other than just their sun sign. Beyond just differing experiences in life, in terms of astrology, you also have a moon and a rising sign that varies based on the time and date you were born.
Friend Date: Mani/Pedi or Streaking on the Beach at Midnight?
The great thing about a Virgo friendship is that you’ll never feel the pressure to stick to the exact plans you both set. Being mutual signs, you both will be more than happy to have a spontaneous adventure.
It’s likely your shared interests will mean that you’ll have no problem coming up with something to do, but when the day arrives, if one of you changes your mind, you’ll have no problem switching up your plans when the moment comes.
Change is fun, after all, and your friendship will flourish because neither of you will put pressure on the other to be perfect. You both understand that life happens, mood changes, and sometimes, if you’ve had a bad day, you just need to stay inside and be alone with your favorite TV show and a bubble bath.
When you do hang out, however, there will never be a dull moment with you two. You’ll enjoy interacting with strangers and vacillate between hanging out one-on-one or including your other friends too.
Friend-Fection: Keep It on the Dl or Text ‘Love Ya Biatch?’
So, I’m a double Virgo–which means that my moon sign is also in Virgo. In other words, the positive and negative traits of a Virgo are doubled. So when I say I need to communicate about things, I need to sound out every single syllable in my head to properly execute the explanation of my emotions.
And yes, it’s often as exhausting as it sounds, but fortunately, I have some great friends who also enjoy talking about their feelings, one of them being Erin, my Virgo.
Now, she definitely talks a lot less than I do, but any fights we’ve gotten into, we always talk through them, usually as we’re experiencing them or not long after. And because we share respect and appreciation for one another, our fights have never been bad.
We’ve never raised our voices, needing to be heard, because, as Virgos, we both understand the importance of speaking and having other people listen. Fortunately, disagreements are less likely to happen between these two Zodiac signs because they understand what the other person needs.
Dating Advice: Send His Name or Send His Social?
You probably have a guard up, Virgo. You’re careful when it comes to love. But if you lower it even a smidge, you might find yourself falling–and fast.
Your Virgo friend will probably be the first person you call. They’ll know the feeling of meeting that special someone and letting your hopes and dreams get the best of you before you even know your date’s last name.
But because they are outside the situation looking in, they’ll have a much more logical opinion about this. That’s the beauty of Virgos–there’s a balanced battle between the head and the heart.
When you’re in the middle of new love, your heart will take your hand and run away with you. But when you’re on the outside of new love, you can easily remove the rose-colored glasses and give your Virgo friend the logical perspective and advice they won’t have access to.
Do your best to move slowly in new partnerships because this person is still a stranger, after all, and you don’t need to start writing your vows at least until the second month.
Virgo and Virgo in Love
Much easier said than done, of course. Especially when both people happen to be Virgos and have let their hearts run off into the sunset. Cue–the opposite interaction of above.
Romantic love between Virgos will most definitely be love lost. Maybe you won’t crash and burn as much as I did in my three–read: three!–Virgo to Virgo relationships (to be fair, one was more of a situation-ship), but still!
But I beg you to consider the flaws that can happen when you essentially date yourself. Just because this pairing works in friendships doesn’t mean it’s bound to work in love. Those similarities that make your friendship work will ultimately create a division when you fall in love.
The First Date: Roses or KFC?
All will look peachy when you first two meet. You’re both talkers who enjoy being heard and know how to listen, and as a result, you’ll sync up mentally and emotionally on your first date. Don’t be surprised if things get physical fast, Virgos.
Although you much prefer a genuine connection with the people whom you share yourself with, you’ll mistakenly believe you’ve found exactly that because when push comes to shove, in true Virgo form, your rose-colored glasses will be glued to your nose.
You won’t want to take them off because you won’t think you need to. Oh, how mistaken you’ll be.
Love Language Do’s and Don’ts: A Dealbreaker?
This is where it gets tricky. As I said in the friend section above, it’s first important to remember that not all Virgos will be the same. But also keep in mind that Virgos can behave differently depending on where they are in their life.
Virgos are people pleasers by nature, and if you spend time with someone and decide you’re not ready for a relationship, it may be difficult for you to communicate this.
Surprising for someone who latches onto communication, I know. But at the end of the day, you don’t want to hurt anyone’s feelings or be the cause of anyone’s pain. Take my word for it. This always backfires. Break up with them now before you break their heart.
But what about when you decide to actually commit? After the honeymoon stage is over, fights between you two will be inevitable. You see, Virgo, you have a tendency to freak out when you don’t feel like you’re being understood. And when you put two people with this shared need into one relationship, you’re doomed for destruction.
Your fights will be loud and mean, laced with accusations and criticisms, thoughts you maybe don’t actually mean. Because you’re an external processor and express yourself out loud, there will be no filter in your fights, and not only will it be something you will regret, but something you’ll run over and ruminate on for weeks on end.
Your communication styles–and your mutual need for words of affirmation–will be exhausting and will inevitably drive you two apart.
Even worse, it’s likely you’ll both be so focused on overanalyzing the minute details of things that half your fights will be over pointless things. But because you have an exquisite memory, neither of you will let this go until you each feel like you’ve gotten the apology you deserve. It will come, but not long later, so will your next fight.
Sexy Time: Slow and Steady or Chompin’ at the Bit?
This will be more fun for the two of you in the beginning… because isn’t that how that works? New, shiny things are always more fun.
And because you’ll both enjoy pleasing the other person, you’ll have no problem getting along.
Eventually, though, when your levels of comfort with one another have reached a place where you don’t hide your thoughts and concerns, your criticisms for yourself and for the other person will inevitably get in the way of enjoying what should be a time in your relationship where you can actually shut off that brain of yours.
Your similarities will cause your friendship to blossom and your love to collapse.
- 1- Get AWAY from me
- 2- Who are you again?
- 3- I tolerate you
- 4- You’re pretty cool
- 5- Let’s gooooo!
What if I Love This Person?
Maybe start with loving yourself first, friend. Cause even you could give yourself better than that.