Gemini and Virgo: Are They Better as Just Friends?


I’m going to be psychic here for a second. (And no, writing astrology compatibility articles doesn’t make me psychic–but hear me out.) If you are a human being, and I’m assuming that’s the case if you’re reading this article–unless you’re an AI robot, well, that’s another story.

Back to being not a robot. So, you’re a human. Welcome! And no I won’t make you check off any of those annoying captcha things to prove it. I’m going to go out on a limb here and make a psychic guess that at one point in your life you’ve probably lived in a house that you shared with other people. Okay, yeah, I’m not psychic. It’s an assumption–but an accurate one!

Now, I’m not just talking about living with someone romantically. I’m talking about living with other people. Be it family, friends, strangers. In your life, you’ve probably shared your space.

So where am I getting at, you ask? Unless you’re adept at never being bothered by another individual–tell me your secret–then you know that just because you live in the same area doesn’t mean you’re going to automatically get along with this person. You may share the same house, but that doesn’t mean you’re destined to be friends or partners.

But is there a chance that it can work? Well, that’s why we’re here.

Gemini and Virgo, you two take things a step beyond and actually share the same planet! You’re both represented by Mercury, the planet of communication and connection, and you’re both mutable signs. Sounds like a match made in heaven, right? Let’s find out!

Gemini Zodiac Symbol


As the communicator of the Zodiac, Gemini, you’re quite adept at using the spoken word to get your way.

You’re an air sign, which makes you a thinker, someone who pursues knowledge of people, the world, your hobbies, and interests–any way you can learn more and expand your understanding of the world around you.

This makes you a natural extrovert, someone who seeks a connection with everything around you. Don’t get me wrong, you’re not someone who needs people to be happy. Quite the opposite.

You’re a free-spirit and incredibly independent. At one time or another in your life, commitment in a relationship sense has probably intimidated you. This is because you crave freedom in all forms–that’s your mutable nature. Combine that with being an air sign, and no way, no how do you like to be tied down.

Still, you thrive when you’re surrounded by people you love and this makes you an incredibly loyal person, as long as your friends know you enough to get you the space when you need it.

Virgo Zodiac Symbol


The mutable earth sign of the Zodiac, you, Virgo, are more grounded than Gemini, your roots keeping you closer to home.

That doesn’t mean you don’t occasionally drift off into the sky. You’re more than happy to go with the flow of whatever comes your way, but because you have people-pleasing tendencies, you struggle with balancing your head and your heart.

Loved ones have probably complimented on your over-thinking tendencies, and because you’re sensitive, depending on who says this and how they see it, you may get your feelings hurt. As long as you learn to stay grounded and not take things personally, you’ll develop an effortless bond with your friends; one created off a foundation of loyalty and trust.

Stability is important to you, so while you are spontaneous, you’re also a homebody, and you seek friends who understand that one day you may want to do a random beach trip, and the next, you’d prefer to stay at home and binge Netflix on the couch.

Gemini and Virgo in Friendship

So, I’m speaking from literal experience here when I discuss how a Virgo and a Gemini may not always get along as they coexist in the same house. I’m a Virgo, and my mom is a Gemini. Everything I learned about astrology, she’s taught me.

She’s written dozens of books on the subjects–it’s no surprise that we’re both writers, as our ruler Mercury makes communication, in every form it takes, a pivotal aspect of our personalities. I’ll be the first to admit that at 33, I can say that while my mom and I are close friends now, that was not always the case… specifically during those high school years when I was discovering myself and particularly craving my own space.

The main reason for this? Other than me being a teenage brat, Gemini’s and Virgo’s have different approaches to life.

Gemini’s are extroverted, gaining their energy from connecting with people. Virgos lean toward the introverted side, needing alone time to recharge their energy.

Gemini’s don’t hold back their thoughts, and when they react, they come with full force, not holding anything back. Virgo’s are equally reactive, except as the more grounded sign of the two, they need a moment to process and rationalize what’s being said, and may often come back after a disagreement and change their standpoint.

Gemini’s, meanwhile, say exactly what they mean when they feel it, and they’ll stand by who they are. More than one friend in my life has said that my mom and I get along so well because we’re so similar… and then followed it up with: well, that’s also why we fight. And the older I’ve gotten, the more I can see how true that sentiment is.

With Mercury as our ruling planet, communication is everything to our friendship. It’s why we can talk for hours about everything and anything under the sun. But it’s also what can derail our arguments. We both have a deep-seated desire to be understood, to feel heard.

And when we feel like we’re not getting that, we’ll double down, our competing arguments making us both stubborn in our standpoints. However, because loyalty is at the core of the hearts of both Geminis and Virgos, at the end of the day, apologies will come, and fun, connection, and understanding will prevail.

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Friend Date: Mani/Pedi or Streaking on the Beach at Midnight?

Two mutable signs, like you guys, Gemini and Virgo, are always going to have a good time together. They’re okay if plans change at the last minute and are flexible if one decides they want to do something different.

Although you, Gemini, are the most extroverted of the two of you, you much prefer connecting with someone over experiencing a new activity. For you the newness comes in the conversation and in the way you interact with each other, meaning you’re just fine with staying in on the nights that Virgo decides to do something more chill.

And Virgo, when you’re ready to get out and venture into the world, Gemini will be the first person you’re going to call to join you. You can always rely on your Gemini friend to see the best in a situation, to bring interesting conversations to the table, and to help you meet new people.

Gemini may not always be around when you need a night in, Virgo, but you’re okay with that because you know that you two get along best when you’re riding the same wave, and when that happens, you know you’re both in for a fun night.

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Friend-Fection: Keep It on the Dl or Text ‘Love Ya Biatch?’

Remember what I said about communication? Fights between you two will probably go something like this: Gemini annoys Virgo, or vice versa. Instead of talking initially about your individual feelings, you’re both going to approach the situation with logic.

Gemini, your curiosity is all about the intellectual, understanding the why behind the motivation. And Virgo, you’re similar. Told you that doesn’t always help. More often than you’d like to admit, Virgo, you lead with logic, and you’ll mirror Gemini’s approach to conversation. If you’re not careful, this can come off as if you’re both blaming the other person, and you’ll respond with an equal defensiveness that will only make matters worse.

The key to navigating your friendship is to lead with feelings first–even if that means you have to talk your way through what you’re experiencing. As long as you can both convey how something affected you emotionally, you’ll both be able to understand where the other person is coming from.

And because you two prioritize your friendships, you’ll find the patience to give your friend the space to express themselves, and when that happens, your friendship will develop a solid foundation that will be more steady should differences arise in the future.

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Dating Advice: Send His Name or Send His Social?

Gemini, this is where you use logic more than your Virgo friend. While you connect effortlessly with strangers and find dating a fun experience, you’re not one to be bamboozled into thinking that love comes effortlessly.

You understand that real trust in a bond is reliant on time and behavior. You’re the kind of person who watches a Lifetime movie and questions the motives when the love interest spills their feelings on date two. But because you love to chat, you’ll tell your friends about your dates, and you’ll give advice to them, even when it’s not asked for, which will be the case for Virgo.

Virgo, although you have your private moments, you will most likely tell your close friends about the people you’re dating. But unlike Gemini, you fall fast and hard. Those rose-colored glasses are always sitting up on your forehead, waiting to fall down.

Your logic drives you in some aspects of your life, but not when it comes to love. That’s all your heart, whispering sweet nothings that may or may not turn out to be something after all. You may hesitate to tell your Gemini friend about your new beaus because you know they’ll approach your butterflies with a rainstorm of reality.

Still, Gemini knows when you’re holding stuff back, and because the spoken word is their weapon, they’ll manage to get you talking about your innermost secrets before you can even catch up to the words spilling out of your mouth.

Your differences with dating will end up being a blessing. Gemini will encourage Virgo to be more logical with love, and Virgo will show Gemini the fun of falling for someone because even if it doesn’t work out, more often than not, it’s worth the fun.

Gemini and Virgo in Love

All right. So you two have a pretty good friendship. Pretending we can get past the fact that Gemini will take their time in a romantic partnership, and will probably be put off by Virgo’s rose-colored glasses, it should go without saying… Just because you’re friends with someone and get along with them, doesn’t mean this same cohesiveness will overflow into a romantic relationship. And so is the case with you two.

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The First Date: Roses or KFC?

Much like your friend dates, you’ll find that your first romantic date will unfold effortlessly. It will be a fun time, one where the conversation will carry late into the night. Issues will arise as your relationship develops and your comfort level with each other increases.

As friends, you two understand that you can live separate lives and that you don’t need to see each other every day. It works because your differences will allow you to lead separate lives while still coming together when you’re both in the right mindset to have a shared positive experience.

Dating, as we all know, doesn’t quite work like that. When you choose a partner to spend your time with, you want your life to be integrated into theirs. This means that, most likely, you’re going to be planning to spend some, if not most, of your free time together. And the issues will arise when Gemini wants to get out into the world and you, Virgo, would prefer to have a quiet night at home.

Sometimes, Virgo, you also want to just have a one-on-one night with your beau, whereas Gemini’s personality will mean that you’re probably guaranteed to interact with just about everyone you run into.

So what’s the problem? Can’t you just talk about it? Well, this leads us to our next section, where the differences in your love language will make a healthy relationship more unlikely than not.

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Love Language Do’s and Don’ts: A Dealbreaker?

I say it often: communication is key. But this is the one pairing in the Zodiac, where there is such a thing as TOO much communication. Because you two talk your way through life, you’ll do the same with your fights.

Just like any fights you may encounter as friends, you will probably rely on your logic instead of your feelings to understand where the other person is coming from. But unlike your friendship, a romantic relationship has higher expectations with connecting with your partner.

Your mutual desires to be understood will heighten the intensity of your conversations and drag out the time it will take for you to get to the core of your issues.

And in the meantime, before you come to the place of expressing your feelings, you will handle the fights differently. Gemini will probably lash out and then leave the house. Virgo, meanwhile, will need time to process things, but will then want their partner by their side.

Even if you aren’t seeing eye to eye, Virgo, you’ll want quality time to know that this person is still here. While you, Gemini, cool off by getting space. It’s likely that these differences will be too much to keep the cohesive connection of your friendship smooth and easy in your relationship.

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Sexy Time: Slow and Steady or Chompin’ at the Bit?

Gemini, you’re much more about adventure and new experiences in the bedroom. It’s one of the reasons you probably prefer casual relationships over-committed ones.

You like being surprised, whereas you, Virgo, prefer stability. You can have your freaky moments, but for you, Virgo, it’s much more about the connection and intimacy. Gemini won’t mind this, but they’ll get bored with the routine and want to spice things up. Virgo may agree to this–eventually, once they’re fully comfortable with their Gemini partner.

But will Gemini still be around when that happens? That’s another question altogether. Just another reason you two may not be on the same page when it comes to love.

The Verdict?

The communication that will keep your friendship together will ultimately be the thing that will drive your romantic relationship apart.

Compatibility Scale:

  • 1- Get AWAY from me
  • 2- Who are you again?
  • 3- I tolerate you
  • 4- You’re pretty cool
  • 5- Let’s gooooo!

Friendship Compatibility

4.0 Gold Stars

Love Compatibility

3.0 Gold Stars

What if I Love This Person?

Tolerating ain’t love, baby.