As a Virgo, I’m going to start this one and say, I do have personal experience here, and I can happily report back that this is a good match. For me, at least, this was a short experience, but one I very much enjoyed, and still think fondly about.
My experience with the Cancer, was one of connection, sensitivity, and honesty, one where personal differences have the potential to bring out the best in the other person while also exposing vulnerabilities that may be difficult to address but, when honed in on, can lead to genuine conversation, because if there’s one thing a Cancer and a Virgo both need, it’s the ability to speak their feelings and feel safe enough to be heard.
That’s not to say there aren’t differences. Cancer is considered one of the most sensitive signs in the Zodiac, and Virgo is one of the most analytical. So, what does this mean for the future? Let’s break it down and figure out how these two will work as friends and in a relationship.
Cancer
You’re the fourth sign in the Zodiac, Cancer, and you’re represented by the symbol, the crab, and ruled by Neptune. This planet rules intuition, and compassion, and represents the dream world, and this intensifies the depth of your emotions.
Your heart guides everything you do, from the words you speak to your friends, to the goals you daydream about. The fourth house in the zodiac, where you sit, Cancer, rules the home life, the domestic side of you.
You’re a homebody, a nurturer who will cultivate a space where you can fully recharge and reset when external circumstances overwhelm you.
- You’re a water sign, so you’re open to going with the flow
- And yet as a cardinal sign, you also enjoy taking the initiative to spend time with your friends or going after your goals.
- You’re ruled by the moon, the planet that controls emotions, and like the influx of the tide, your moods can switch on a dime.
You’re incredibly in tune with the way you feel, but because your heart rules over your head, you sometimes let your feelings get the best of you, and when that happens, you can sometimes feel overwhelmed and become snappy.
Because you’re a natural introvert, you’ll need to return to that safe space you’ve created in order to recharge yourself so you can offer the whole of yourself to those you love.
Virgo
Virgo, you’re situated right between the end of summer and the beginning of fall, the sixth sign in the Zodiac, with a symbol of the Virgin, or the Maiden.
You’re an earth sign, grounded, but sensitive, and you probably struggle with a tension between your head and your heart, your thoughts and your feelings.
Your sensitivities are heightened by your overthinking mentality and your analytical nature. You’re pragmatic, but you’re also eager to uplift others, and you can be a people pleaser.
There’s a high chance that people have taken advantage of your kindness in the past. You have a tendency to ruminate on things, especially if you feel like you did something wrong, and because you tend to blame yourself instead of others, you struggle with feeling like you’re not enough.
You often strive for perfection that doesn’t exist and can be exponentially hard on yourself if things don’t work out.
You’re ruled by the planet Mercury, which represents communication and curiosity.
You need to be able to talk to your friends and families about what you’re feeling, and because you’re an external processor, needing to express yourself to process what you’re feeling, you’ll probably find relief from journaling or even talking out loud to your pets.
Yes, you’ll look crazy, but does your dog really care? I think not.
Cancer and Virgo in Friendship
You both are guilty of being overly empathetic, where you act like a sponge, absorbing other people’s emotions and making them your own. Because of this, you both will need to disconnect from people from time to time and recharge in your own safe space. Not everyone will understand this need of yours, but your Cancer or Virgo friend most definitely will.
Virgo, you’re a mutable sign, so you’re always down to go with the flow of new situations, which will blend well with Cancer being a water sign. And because Cancer is an initiator, they’ll always have ideas of things to do.
Where Cancer sometimes struggles with following through with their goals and making them happen, Virgo will step in and show the way. And when it comes to turning off your brain, Virgo, Cancer will teach you how to calm down mentally and trust your gut.
Friend Date: Mani/Pedi or Streaking on the Beach at Midnight?
Loyalty is everything to both of you, and you’ll find that even at your first meeting, there’s something genuine that summarizes all of your conversations.
You’ll connect on an emotional level, one you can’t quite pinpoint when you first meet. This bond will only grow as time passes, and you discover that you share more than just values.
While you both enjoy interacting with friends and going out, you both prefer quiet nights in, getting lost in conversation over and enjoying connecting with each other more than what you’re actually doing action-wise.
You both crave security and comfort and will seek to develop trust through conversation over sharing wild experiences out and about. And it works well, creating a solid bond that you two appreciate.
Friend-Fection: Keep It on the Dl or Text ‘Love Ya Biatch?’
Cancer, you’re a bit of a conundrum with communication. You’re incredibly sensitive and in touch with how you feel, yet you hate confrontation. You’ll flee from it, scuttling sideways in the sand like a crab to avoid fighting.
Because Virgo is in tune with their feelings, they’ll pick up on your energy and eventually try to talk about it. Cancer, you’ll talk about it because you probably trust Virgo, and when you do, it will feel like a weight has been lifted, like there’s a breath of fresh air enabling you to express yourself.
And Virgo, you’ll enjoy listening to someone who is so in tune with their emotions. It’s something you crave in your life and will learn to adopt from your Cancer friend. Issues and fights can arise from Virgo overthinking things and appearing insensitive, and Cancer shutting down instead of talking.
But eventually, once you communicate, you two will be just fine.
Dating Advice: Send His Name or Send His Social?
You both fall fast when it comes to love. Cancer, your heart guides most of the things you do in life, and this is especially true with new love.
Virgo, you may be a bit more analytical and overthink new partners, but your heart will win out. You both see the best in people and will don rose-colored glasses quickly in a new relationship.
Cancer, you’re usually pretty private with talking about new partners, but you’ll open up with your Virgo friend, because they’ll understand where you’re coming from.
And Virgo, Cancer is always the first friend you’re going to call up when you meet someone you like. You’re a romantic and you love to share these thoughts with friends who will be excited with you and Cancer will be that person.
Cancer and Virgo in Love
Everything you experienced as friends will be mirrored here as romantic partners, the good and the bad. You two will love the depth of your conversations, and the ease with which time flies when you’re together.
Once you two become even closer, your communication will struggle if you two don’t work at opening up. But once you do, this relationship will flourish.
You two share core values of loyalty and trust, and it will create a healthy foundation that will offer a steady bedrock to a future together.
The First Date: Roses or KFC?
You both are flexible and spontaneous when it comes to first dates. You’re eager to try new experiences, but you both share a desire to get to know the true sides of people.
Virgo, you may have more of a guard up, but Cancer’s emotional sensibility will allow you to feel comfortable enough to open up with them.
And Cancer, you’ll find Virgo’s analytical mindset interesting, adding a spark to your conversations. You will merge well together, and have a spontaneous, engaging first date that will definitely lead to a second date.
It will be less about what you do, and more about the conversations that fill your time, and because of that, hours will pass like mere seconds, and you’ll walk away grinning ear to ear.
Love Language Do’s and Don’ts: A Dealbreaker?
Cancer, you’ll have difficulty bringing up issues to Virgo, and if Virgo doesn’t pick up on the dip in your energy, you’ll eventually get around to telling them about your feelings.
Fortunately for you, Virgo is a whiz at communicating. Their planet rules the ability to talk, and since your planet rules emotions, these conversations will be emotional but not overly difficult, as Virgo is taking your hand and leading the way.
Virgo’s over-analytical nature can be a lot for some signs, but Cancer won’t mind it. They’re used to struggling with being told they’re too emotional.
Because Cancer is patient and also understands the need to talk, you two will be there for each other and learn to listen to one another because you have a shared respect that enables these conversations to bond you two together.
Sexy Time: Slow and Steady or Chompin’ at the Bit?
Virgo may be a bit more exploratory than you in the bedroom, Cancer, but you’ll probably be the one to make the first move. You’re both emotional and enjoy showing your feelings for your partner through intimacy, and you’ll both be happy with the way you connect here.
Because Cancer’s home is their safe space, and they only bring in people they trust, it may take time to get to this point, but once you do, you’re only going to discover that this will build your bond and connection.
The Verdict?
As long as you, Cancer, learn to express your thoughts to Virgo, Virgo will guide the way for communication. And Virgo, if you can learn to absorb some of Cancer’s emotional sensibility to balance out your over-analytical mind, then you’re good to go. As friends and partners, there is potential to be in each other’s lives for a long time.
Compatibility Scale:
- 1- Get AWAY from me
- 2- Who are you again?
- 3- I tolerate you
- 4- You’re pretty cool
- 5- Let’s gooooo!
Friendship Compatibility
Love Compatibility
What if I Love This Person?
Then scream it from the rooftops because they’ll be happy to hear it.
