If you’re an Aries, and recently dated a Libra, and now you’re dating a Cancer… you’re probably assuming some good news. ‘I just read that Aries and Libra’s are different, opposites attract, and this is going to be great.’ I’m going to do something a little different here and start this blog off with an apology. My lovely friend, just because opposites attract sometimes does not mean that’s always the case. In fact, it’s usually not the norm; it’s typically the exception. So here, with this combination, let’s delve into how two opposites, while not necessarily enemies, do not make a great combination in either love or friendship. And if you were hoping for something more hopeful, perhaps a happy ending with dandelions and fairies, then may I suggest you watch a Lifetime movie instead?
Right before a tornado lands, a funnel cloud forms, but even the most skilled storm chasers will tell you that regardless of technology, the shape of the clouds, and the force of the wind, the exact location of that funnel cloud is unpredictable. That’s you, Aries, an unpredictable force to be reckoned with. In your mind, you’re honest, genuine, and clear about what you want. But to some other signs–ahem, looking at you, Cancer–they perceive these traits of yours as someone who is overly sensitive when they don’t get their way (and aggressive as a result).
- What you see as spontaneous, others see as flighty.
- Your constantly changing interests are perceived as boredom,
- And your yearning desire to explore the world is, from Cancer’s standpoint, utterly bizarre and not relatable.
Fortunately for you, Aries, becoming everyone’s friend is far from on your to-do list, and it’s this mindset that makes Cancer more of a specimen to observe than someone to befriend.
You, Cancer, are a water sign, which fits well with your symbol, the crab. While all signs can connect some personality traits to their symbol–the ram for the Aries is hardheaded, for example–perhaps no one represents the definition of their symbol as much as you, Cancer.
Let’s take a look at the crab. You live in your home, a comfortable little shell that you can crawl inside when things get rough. When threats arrive, you attempt to scuttle sideways, avoiding oncoming conflict. But if you can’t outrun it, and the water sweeps you left, sometimes knocking you onto your back, all you have to do is retreat inside your little home.
Like your changing moods, it’s disorienting to spend the morning in one place and go to sleep in another, but you never freak out too much because you really can’t get separated from home. As long as the safe space of your shell is with you, you’re good to go. But yank you out of your home and throw you to the seagulls exposed and without protection? Then you’ll be lucky to survive, and if you do, then the world beware. You have claws for a reason.
Aries and Cancer in Friendship
While not the case with all water and fire signs, you two repel more than you co-exist. Cancer, to a fiery Aries, you are a suffocating blanket, water poured on their fun. While you’re out exploring the world, Cancer is locked up in isolation, too afraid to even step out the front door, at least in your opinion, anyway. To the Cancer, you Aries, are destruction manifested in human form. The only reason Cancer doesn’t completely hate you, however, is because they rarely, if ever, have experienced something firsthand. Cancer, you don’t leave your house enough for that. But despite your introverted nature, you have enough friends who’ve told you stories of Aries, and they’re just another reminder that you’re safer at home.
Friend Date: Mani/Pedi or Streaking on the Beach at Midnight?
If you haven’t already scrolled down to check the number rating below, I’m going to give one simple explanation of why the friend compatibility is a two instead of a 1. You two are the exact opposite in most things in life, but specifically in this area, in how you interact with the world. Cancer, you prefer gathering at your house, game nights and house parties are definitely your go-tos over clubbing or a night out. But if you do venture into the world, you act with purpose, preparing yourself mentally and emotionally to make sure you enjoy whatever you plan to do. Spontaneous adventures aren’t completely off the table, as you have a go-with-the-flow attitude, but your emotions can flip on a dime, and the instant something feels off, you won’t hesitate to switch up your plans and head back home.
Aries, you don’t think about home at all. Having a safe space is irrelevant, as you trust yourself enough to have fun wherever you go. For this reason, you prefer exploring the world, getting out into places where other people go–and don’t go. Your unique preferences ensure you rarely interact with each other. Given more opportunities, your differences would enhance your dislike for each other, not just in what you enjoy doing but how you enjoy doing it. Aries crosses lines. Cancers color within them. The compatibility between you two would be a 1 if your lives crossed over regularly.
Friend-Fection: Keep It on the Dl or Text ‘Love Ya Biatch?’
Cancer, you’re ruled by the moon, which, like the changing tides, represents your mood swings. Or what other people would call mood swings. To you, it’s more about staying true to your internalized comfort. You have a meter, and when it dips, you need to be alone and recharge. Once you’re back to normal, you’re steady and stable, ready to connect with those you love. You are a people pleaser, however, so this balance creates an interesting dynamic. You may not always immediately express your affection, but when you’ve reset yourself emotionally, you’re more than happy to interact with your friends–and give them whatever reassurance they need. Aries surprise, surprise, you are the complete opposite. You drift through your days, driven by the impulsivity of the moment. If one moment, your friend pisses you off; you let them know. If the next, you love them; you tell them. You’re so grounded in the moment, though; you don’t let yesterday affect today because you’re too focused on tomorrow.
Dating Advice: Send His Name or Send His Social?
Cancer, you’re very anti-confrontation, anti-drama, anti-anything that creates issues. When you venture out into the world, especially on first dates, you lean toward the pessimistic. If it hasn’t worked before, it’s unlikely to work again. For that reason, you may tell your closest friends that you’re going on a date, maaaybe mention their name, but you definitely won’t go into more details until you know if this is real. And in terms of googling them? You’ll wait a year before you’re certain of your feelings, and by then, you’ll trust your person enough that you won’t feel the need to google them. Aries, you’ll investigate your potential partner for two reasons: out of curiosity or out of revenge. For either reason, like Cancer (possibly one of your few similarities) you don’t feel any need to discuss this with your friends.
Aries and Cancer in Love
Put it this way. You’re both more emotional and sensitive than you like to lead on. It’s what will draw you to each other initially, a pulsating, porous expression you can both feel from one another. If you get to where you recognize this quality, then you’ve probably been on a few dates and are still feeling each other out. You don’t yet know your differences. Instead, you’re focusing on an attraction you can’t quite understand. Intimacy is probably inevitable. But once you get that out of the way? Aries fall hard, and while Cancer is a bit more gradual, they are about as loyal as the zodiac signs come. For this reason, if you’ve made it past the one-month mark, there’s a chance that you two will attempt to make it work. If you get past one year (and want to do another one) then consider yourself lucky.
The First Date: Roses or KFC?
This is the main reason these love relationships are so rare. Aries is up and out, ready to go. Racing for the door, slamming the foot on the gas, and cutting corners on the way to an exciting first date throwing axes or ice skating. You bond with people based on experiences, while Cancer is the opposite. Cancer, you enjoy quiet dinners where conversations can abound or darts at a bar where it’s just the two of you uncovering idiosyncrasies. Whereas action drives an Aries, the mind fuels the Cancer, especially in the beginning.
Love Language Do’s and Don’ts: A Dealbreaker?
Cancer, you, like your symbol, the crab, are a-okay being alone. You could be surrounded by others like you, but you’re self-sufficient enough to crawl into your hole, retract into your shell, and live your life just like that. But when you find your partner, the one who lights you up from the inside out, you take that risk of leaving your shell–or creating space for them inside yours–and then you don’t hold back in your affection. Words of affirmation, quality time, and physical touch are your go-to, but physical touch, specifically, is one you will rely on. Love for you can’t always be spoken in words, and you need someone who can sit in silence while you hold their hand and know that’s enough. This very reason is why you and Aries have the potential to hit it off in those early days.
Aries, meanwhile, you vacillate your affection based on the person you’re with. If there’s one thing you’ve discovered, your bluntness doesn’t always lead you to the connection you desire with others. Your physical nature, however, has manifested in more positive experiences, and for that reason, you occasionally lean on intimacy as the starting point to grow closer to a potential love interest, even if that’s just relaxing on the couch with your arm around your potential partner. It’s this initial similarity that will bring you and Cancer together.
Sexy Time: Slow and Steady or Chompin’ at the Bit?
Aries, your impulsivity means that you have a tendency to hop between relationships when things get a little stale. For this reason, you’re not opposed to the occasional–or frequent one-night stand. It’s not all about intimacy with you; however, you can fall for someone just by spending time with them. However, with Cancer, your differences are deep enough that if you’re feeling an attachment, it’s probably because you’ve already slept together and infatuation is whispering louder than your logic.
For you, Cancer, sex is something to be considered before it happens. That’s not to say you haven’t experienced quick intimacy without prior thought. But it’s likely you’ve compared the difference between a one-night stand and the connection that comes with a relationship, and you know what you prefer. A connection, loyalty, the space to grow and learn about one another, and for that reason, you’re probably more likely to take your time before your next close-up.
As friends, it’s unlikely you’ll even cross paths, and if you do, you’ll find the other person strange at best and annoying at worst. With love, to put it bluntly, you probably met on a blind date or a dating app, and as much as you may think you like someone, it’s unlikely to ever get past the honeymoon stage of infatuation.
- 1- Get AWAY from me
- 2- Who are you again?
- 3- I tolerate you
- 4- You’re pretty cool
- 5- Let’s gooooo!
What if I Love This Person?
Stop seeing them for a week and reevaluate if you enjoy their personality as much as you thought you did.