There is already enormous pressure surrounding February 14 for couples, never mind single people looking for a Valentine’s day date. Throw in the existing stress of swiping and matching, and you’ve got a potential love bomb.
That’s why we are going to look into how to deal with the pressure of finding a Valentine’s Day date on dating apps and see if there are ways to lengthen the already-lit fuse, so you have more time before it becomes a ticking-time “Tinder” box (see what we did there? We made a punny).
To Swipe or Not to Swipe?
It’s much easier to prepare for Valentine’s Day when you’re connected to someone. However, Valentine’s Day may be, well, odd if you’re single. Everything seems to be buzzing around the holiday.
Even if you don’t celebrate February 14 by going out and trying to find a Valentine’s day date, the fact that today is a holiday dedicated to love cannot be ignored. It’s literally everywhere you look, and online dating apps intensify the pressure.
So about those dating apps: Should you even go near them on the days leading up to Feb. 14 or throw your phone into the ocean, so you aren’t tempted to match with someone, anyone, just to have a Valentine’s day date? You don’t want to come off as desperate, but you also don’t want to miss your chance to connect with a potential cutie!
We think you should do what you want in terms of dating apps and not give in to the outside pressure surrounding the “L” word day. If you wish to continue searching, do so! But if it feels weird and you’re putting a lot of pressure on yourself solely because it’s Valentine’s Day, you may want to take the day off and do something fun instead.
5 Tips for Landing a Valentine’s Day Date
However, if you’re determined to find a Valentine’s day date, we are giving you some of the best tips we’ve found to help you find success while looking for a date online.
1. Add Valentine’s Day to Your Profile
If you like Valentine’s Day and consider yourself a hopeless romantic, then now is not the time to get offline. The number of people using dating apps skyrockets between February 1-14, so you shouldn’t be bashful or play coy.
Say something like, “I’m an incurable romantic and adore Valentine’s Day” when you sign in and update your profile. It shows that you’re interested in arranging a date for the big love day. Also, we suggested rocking some festive red. After all, the color red is associated with passion, and studies show that profiles of women wearing red get more attention.
2. Check Profile Views
With some dating apps, with a premium subscription, you can see who has viewed your profile so you can target your messages more accurately.
There’s a strong probability that your virtual nudging will lead to a chat if they checked you out but didn’t have time or were nervous about sending the first message. You guys are both free and single. What’s the harm in trying? We say to shoot your shot!
3. Be Online during Peak Hours
In contrast to the average traffic bottleneck, this one is unusual. The peak use period for dating apps is between 7 p.m. and 10 p.m. local time every day. Consider it for a moment—after a long day at the office, you’ve probably had dinner, and you’re surely in the mood to begin a conversation with a new acquaintance.
In the days leading up to Valentine’s Day, “Rush Hour” is the busiest time for online dating and mobile dating apps. After that, start swiping to find a potential Valentine’s day date, talking to create connections, and flirting to develop a possible love match.
4. Log on More
People who use dating sites look at their apps more than 10 times a day, and most spend between one and three hours doing it. The added benefit of having your app open while doing other things (like calling a friend or watching a rerun of your favorite TV show) is that it will increase the quality of the matches you get.
We’ll explain why: mysterious scientific dating algorithms tend to favor profiles with the most activity, which means that you will appear to possible matches more often.
5. Move Your Relationship Offline
While chatting and texting are fun activities, it is important to avoid becoming digital pen pals and instead meet in real life.
Getting each other’s digits, starting a chat via the app’s voice or video capability, setting up a virtual date, and, if things go well, setting up a real-world meeting are all recommendations we stand by.
When there are so many simple methods to find a suitable date literally at your fingertips, life is far too short for blank date cards.
On Valentine’s Day, may you find love and happiness on whatever dating app you choose to match or swipe!