The Perfect Pair | How to Use Enneagram and Myers-Briggs Personality Types to Maximize Your Online Dating Experience


Personality types are some of the most exciting and helpful ways to learn more about yourself and your partner than many people realize. 

These tests allow you to learn more about your personality than you might have thought possible. These tests provide their users with a great deal of insight and wisdom about how they approach the world and interact with certain people based on their results. 

We always encourage people who take personality tests to apply them to their personal and romantic lives because these tests do so much more than scratch the surface about who we are and what matters to us. 

It’s important to note that we’re not saying that all you need to know about a person before you should feel comfortable enough to get into a relationship with them is their personality type. But if you’re in a bit of a rush and you’re trying to figure out what kind of a person is going to fit into your life the best, or you want to have a great conversation while you’re on a dating app, you need to look into all of the things that a personality test can do for you. 

If you’re curious about all of the ways that you can use your Myers-Briggs type and your Enneagram number when you’re exploring the world of online dating, we’ve got you covered! Here are a few reasons why these personality tests are crucial when approaching the world of online dating.

Why Personality Types Matter When You’re Online Dating

Not many people feel as passionately about personality tests and how they can help guide couples in their dating lives as we are. And that’s okay. Even if we don’t live and breathe personality tests and the information we can glean from them. 

But there’s no denying that personality tests can be a great help when you’re online dating (or just dating in general). 

Whether you’re an expert in all things personality tests and one of your claims to fame is that you’re the person who knows the most about the Enneagram and the Myers-Briggs in any room you enter, or if you’re just getting started. If you want to learn more, you should begin infusing the information you can learn from your personality test results into your dating life. You might be shocked by the results. 

Personality tests are some of the best things you can use in your dating life and one of the best ways to know whether or not you’re going to get along with a person based on just a few numbers or letters.

While basing a lot of your dating life on your personality test results might sound a little crazy to someone who isn’t as familiar with all of the things that these personality tests can do for you, we’re confident that your dating life will improve in more ways than you could imagine when you use it to help you find love. 

If you’re curious about all of the ways you can use your personality test results to find the best match for you while you’re online dating, keep reading. 

How to Infuse Your Personality Type into Your Dating

You can talk about your personality test results in so many ways while online dating. Don’t be concerned if you’re worried about how you can naturally and organically bring up the subject when you’re on a dating app.

People put a lot of their basic information in their dating app bios because they know that’s the first place that most people look when trying to figure out what makes another person tick and whether or not someone thinks they’re going to get along with you. 

If you want to lead with your personality type, talk about it in your bio! Let people know what your Enneagram number or Myers-Briggs type is. If you already know what kind of a person you’re looking for online based on their personality type, you can also put that in your bio. 

Another way you can talk about your personality test results is by bringing it up naturally in a conversation when you’re messaging someone. This is one of the easiest ways to assess if the person to whom you’re talking is going to be a good match for you. 

No matter how you decide to bring up the subject, we hope that you find success when you’re on your dating journey and that you’re able to find the perfect person for you. 

1. Start a Conversation about It

When you’re on a dating app, you want to have a few topics that you can quickly bring up to keep the conversation going. And while there are always some good go-to topics that usually work on dating apps, asking your match about their Myers-Briggs type or Enneagram number is one of the most helpful things you can do at the beginning of your relationship. 

Not only does this topic break the ice a bit and give your conversation a purpose, but it also leads the conversation to take place around a topic related to relationships. 

While these two personality tests often tell the individual who takes them more about themselves than they might otherwise have ever known, another significant benefit that these tests allow for their users is a look into how they act in relationships. 

If you’re an expert in all things Enneagram and Myers-Briggs and you bring up the test results to your partner, you’ll get a pretty straightforward read on who they are and what they stand for based on their results. 

Another reason we like the idea of bringing up these tests is that it can also give your match something to do if they’ve never heard of these personality tests. Sometimes, one of the best things about getting into a relationship with someone new is that they’re able to teach you about something you might never have heard of if you didn’t know them.

2. Personality Tests Make It Easier to Find Matches through Online Dating

There are many reasons why people need to infuse the results and information they get from their personality tests into their romantic lives. One of the main reasons that we like to suggest that people talk about their personality tests while they’re online dating is that it makes it easier to know whether or not you’re going to mesh with someone. 

Everyone has a type. That’s not a bad thing. And when you’re online dating, it can be good to play into that type and explore relationships with people who might fit into your dream type. 

We don’t necessarily want to encourage you to only date people who are a specific type because that will often lead you to exclude people with whom you could have created a great relationship. But we want you to explore a relationship with whomever you’d like to when you’re online dating.

When you’re on a dating app, you must balance many different elements and make several snap decisions on the fly. Because of the quick actions that are needed on dating apps, as well as the immense pressure that’s already more than likely on you because of the nature of dating apps, it’s nice to know that you’re going into your app and your dating life with a kind of a game plan. 

While we don’t think that you should take the results of these tests as gospel, and there’s a lot to be said about having the freedom to be yourself without the constraints of what your Enneagram thinks you should be, the Enneagram comes in handy more often than not when you’re using it to learn about yourself and your preferences. 

3. Personality Tests Can Help You Learn about Your Matches

In the same way that you can learn about yourself and your personal preferences, you can use your partner’s personality test results to learn more about them. Now, you might want to avoid matching with someone on a dating app and immediately ask them what their Enneagram number is or their Myers-Briggs personality type. Still, if you want to ease into the conversation and mention it, you can start to learn more about your match immediately. 

When you’re in the messaging stage on a dating app, you naturally want to ask your partner questions that will help you get to know them and form a deeper understanding of who they are. 

You can outright ask them if they know their Enneagram number or their Myers-Briggs type, or you can ask them a few pointed questions about their preferences and interests and see if you can decipher their personality type from the information you glean. 

Of course, we never suggest that you assign someone a type based on the limited information you have about them, but if you can do some digging, you might pique their interest enough to make them want to take the test and explore it for themselves.

And if you’re in a relationship with someone and don’t know their number or type, you can start exploring that as a couple. Taking personality tests with your significant other makes it much easier to answer the questions because you can ‘cheat’ a little bit and ask them what they would say about you. 

4. Use the Myers-Briggs and Enneagram Test to Find Your Perfect Partner

While we never want people to use these tests to exclude anyone, it might be wise to use your results to find the personality type you’ll get along with best. 

When you take a personality test like the Enneagram or the Myers-Briggs, one of the elements you can see when you get your results is what type you will pair best with. 

This isn’t gospel, and there are always some exceptions to the rules, but for the most part, the types that these personality tests say pair well together are pretty brilliant. 

The key to this is that each good pairing provides balance and room for growth for the other. When you’re an Enneagram Eight, you’ll want to date someone easygoing, grounding, and calm so that you might have more of that in your life. 

ENJFs pair well with INFPs. As you can see, they’re not entirely different in all of their personality sections, but in the places where they are different, there is room for growth and balance. Likewise, if you’re an ENJF, you’re going to want to date someone who compliments you, often meaning that they’re close to your opposite. 

When you’re on a dating app, you’re going to get access to more people who are ready and willing to date you than you will likely ever be able to get to know. That means that you’re likely going to meet several people who fit into your perfect personality test match, and you can see whether or not that match will be good for you. 

A Final Word of Encouragement

We know how overwhelming online dating can be, especially when you’re just getting started on the apps and are still determining if you’ll find success online or not. 

The main takeaway that we want you to leave this article with is that there is an easy way to approach online dating when you’re approaching it through the lens of personality tests and all that they can provide.

Even though you might now know everything there is to know about online dating and you might feel as though you’re a little lost when it comes to personality tests as well when you put both of these things together, you’re going to be sure to find success in love, and you’re more than likely going to find your perfect person. 

We hope that all of this helps you when you’re looking for love online and that you’re able to find success with your favorite online dating app

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