Spring is the perfect time to embrace new beginnings and take action to help bring them about. We typically go about this by taking part in the tradition of “spring cleaning”! While it’s great to clean up your space, spring cleaning can apply to everything in your life – so there’s no need to stop once you’ve organized the clutter. Mental clutter can be managed, too – and so can the factors cluttering up your online dating profile!
Don’t let the aspects of your dating profile continue to stop you from finding the romantic success you’re looking for. Create a new beginning by refreshing your dating profile for Spring!
Why Should You Refresh Your Dating Profile This Spring?
Since online dating is a trendy way to find a romantic partner these days – actually the most popular dating method in current times – you’ve probably taken the online dating process pretty seriously, and understandably so! With that being said, we know how much time and energy you’ve already put into creating the perfect profile. And you may be quite attached to what you’ve written, your pictures, and every other little detail your profile’s made of.
And that all makes sense! But taking another look at your profile content can help you get even more successful results in your online dating life. And that push forward could be precisely what you need to finally connect with the perfect match you’ve been waiting for.
Not to mention, you’re probably slightly different than you were when you initially wrote your profile. The pictures you’ve uploaded are probably outdated by now – no matter how good you look in them! And while you may not need to do a complete overhaul, your profile could probably stand to be updated at the very least.
That’s not a bad thing! People grow and change over time. And in order to help you find the most compatible matches out there, your online dating profile should evolve with you. Spring is the perfect time to make sure the profile you’ve crafted so carefully truly matches every aspect of the current, amazingly dateable version of you!
But an undertaking like this can seem a little overwhelming – especially after putting so much effort into creating your dating profile in the first place. That’s why we created this article on how to refresh your dating profile for Spring in the easiest and most effective ways! Check out these tips to elevate your profile to a whole new level – then let your new and improved profile help you find the love you’re looking for!
10 Tips for Refreshing Your Dating Profile This Spring
Keep in mind that while you’re going through these tips, incorporating new and updated content is crucial! Spring is all about new beginnings, after all. With that being said, here are our tips on how to give new life to your dating profile!
1. What Do You Want Now?
When you initially created your online dating profile, you probably had to indicate the type of relationship you were looking for. At the time, you were probably pretty new to the online dating process and were in a slightly different stage of your life.
Have your dating goals changed over time? With some more experience in the online dating game, have you realized you might be open to other types of relationships?
Even if you’re sticking to the same type of relationship, consider whether or not your expectations have changed. And if so, how so? What do you want out of a partner, and what are your standards for how they act?
Make sure to write down the answers to these questions. Then, keep them in mind while you craft your revised dating profile. Are there ways to incorporate elements that might attract the qualities you’re looking for in a partner? Are there profile questions that allow you to express your expectations for how your potential partner would act? Incorporate these answers wherever you can, and you’ll end up attracting more compatible and curated matches to your inbox!
2. Choose Authenticity over Novelty
There’s tons of advice out there that encourages online daters to make sure their profiles are unique and original, so they can stand out from the crowd. In a sea of online daters, you have to do something to make your profile noticeable, so it doesn’t blend in and get passed over by the high-quality matches you’re looking to attract.
And this isn’t bad advice, either – we’ve written about it several times! It can make a meaningful difference when attracting partners to read through your entire profile and inspiring them to message you or send you some type of interaction. Without some novelty, you’ll have trouble moving people to action to show you they’re interested – which is one of the most important ways you’ll form initial romantic connections online. Even if you reach out to them, they’ll probably check out your profile before deciding to respond to your advance. And if your profile seems as cookie-cutter as the rest of those out there, they may not be adequately inspired to act.
But while novelty is necessary, it should never trump authenticity. At the end of the day, while novelty is an effective way to attract attention, authenticity is an even more powerful factor. Being seen as genuine is the most important impression that makes the difference between people deciding to connect with you or whether to pass you over instead. It’s up there with confidence in terms of being key to success.
So be yourself over all else! Did you put in a line that was definitely unique but didn’t truthfully capture the essence of your personality? Kick it to the curb! Anything in your profile that is only included to help you get noticed isn’t going to help you because it’ll read as inauthentic. So scrap the unique lines that don’t allow you to express your true self. If you love to travel, so be it – it’s better to say that than something that doesn’t represent the real you!
3. Take a Look at Your Inbox
While this one doesn’t necessarily have to do with your profile, it has to do with our first tip for attracting a new, more relevant type of match. It’s also pretty heavy on the spring cleaning aspect of refreshing your online dating life!
So…when was the last time you cleaned out your inbox? Still holding onto hope that that super-attractive match will apologize for that out-of-pocket comment they sent? Or maybe you’ve got a healthy collection of “maybes” that you’re saving for a lonely day?
Well, it’s time to spring into action and delete them all! Maybes aren’t good enough for you. And people who’ve sported red flags simply don’t meet the mark.
Cleaning out some space in your inbox makes metaphorical and mental room for the right type of matches to start filling it up again. Create space for better matches to start hitting you up, and you’ll put yourself in an effectively attractive frame of mind – one that’ll help you while you’re in the process of refreshing your dating profile for Spring!
4. Update Your Pictures – And Keep It Candid
The perfect headshot can get you pretty far in the online dating world! But high-quality, candid pictures can get you better results. Current candid pictures are the best elements you can have in your dating profile in terms of attracting the right type of match for you.
There are a few ways to get candid pictures that honestly represent your most attractive qualities – but here’s our favorite. Go enjoy your favorite hobby or activity, or maybe a few of your interests in a row, and bring a trusted friend along with you. Have them snap pics of you while you’re in go mode! Even if they’re not a photographer, setting them up with a phone with a great camera and a rapid-fire shot option will get you the high-quality candid pictures you’re looking for.
Not only will this photoshoot be fun – it’ll show people who you are when you’re happiest and in your element! And when you’re enjoying yourself, your body language will make you look even more attractive. Your face will give off microexpressions that express genuine joy – and no fake smile can match that type of attraction. Get these pictures, and you’ll get better results from your online dating efforts!
5. Get Rid of the Negatives
Earlier, we said to try to include the standards you’re looking for in a partner in your dating profile. But it’s crucial to do this in a positive way. You may already have some negatives in your profile, trying to ward off matches that won’t fit the bill.
The problem here isn’t being honest about your standards and what you’re looking for – it’s that any negative vibe in your profile is an automatic turn-off for your matches! No one likes a negative person or wants to bring them into their lives – especially in a romantic way.
So read over your profile. Do you have anything in there that’s negative? Popular inclusions like this are “will only date people that…” and “don’t contact unless…” and these don’t make you seem attractive, or even healthfully choosy. They just come off as unfavorable. And there’s a better, more attractive, positive way to say these things!
Instead of saying those types of things, reframe them in a positive light. Let’s take those popular examples we just mentioned. Saying “will only date people that…” can be reframed by saying “excited to find someone that…” which is also clear and expresses the same standard. Saying “don’t contact unless…” you can say something like “it’s meaningful to me that…” instead.
You can say exactly what you want to – it’s all in how you say it! So make sure it’s positive so you can bring the correct matches to your inbox in the most attractive way possible.
6. If the Funny Line is Forced, Forget It
We all understand how irresistible a solid sense of humor can be. And there’s a wealth of data supporting how humor can amplify the effect of your online dating profile. But at the end of the day, humor is a subjective art. And if it feels forced, it can end up having the opposite effect on your matches, driving them away.
There’s only one thing that’s worse than having no sense of humor – and that’s having a lousy sense of humor (lol!). We’re not saying that the joke in your profile is bad! But if it feels forced or out of place, it can make it seem like you took it from somewhere else, so you could pretend to have a good sense of humor.
This implies that you couldn’t come up with something yourself because you might have a poor sense of humor. And that will drive people away in droves.
So if that funny line is forced, forget it! Ask yourself – does it flow naturally with the rest of your dating profile? Does it feel like it belongs with the rest of your content? If you’re having trouble answering these questions, ask a trusted friend or family member to give you an honest answer on this. If your humor is working for you, by all means, keep it in your content! But if you copied and pasted something from an internet search to make yourself seem funnier, you’re probably better off without that line. And that’s okay! You only want humor that will help you – not going to hurt your chances of finding your perfect match.
7. Focus on What You Love to Do
If your end game is finding someone to spend leisure time with you, you’re looking for a match that will enjoy joining you for the activities you love! When it comes to partners, we focus on the compatibility traits that the algorithms and questionnaires dictate we should. And that’s not a bad idea – it’s taken dating to a new, more effective, scientific level that’s giving everyone a better chance at finding true love.
But other than that – how can you narrow down the field? The online dating pool is full of fish. There are still an incredible amount of people who are compatible with you, even if you narrow down your filters.
So with so many options, who’s the right person for you to focus on pursuing? Well, the one that has the best ability to sustain the type of relationship you’re looking for. And most successful relationships have parties that enjoy common interests.
If those common interests can be your favorite activities, wouldn’t that be an ideal situation? Well, that’s the goal! So don’t be afraid to get into detail about what you love to do. The best matches will love a deeper dive because they’ll get a taste of what it’s like to enjoy those activities with you. They’ll see how much potential your relationship has and be motivated to get to know you better!
Focusing on your interests also sets your matches up for fantastic conversation starters. So, by focusing a bit more on your hobbies in your content, you’re setting yourself up for conversations that are more fun for you! That’s a win for them and a double win for you.
8. Get More Specific
Any generalities are taking up valuable space on your dating profile. There’s simply no room to waste on generic words that’ll make you seem like you have a lukewarm personality.
We know you’re not just kind, caring, and cute. We know better – there are descriptive words just waiting to make your profile more accurate. The right words can effectively paint a picture of your personality that looks a lot more like you and will show your matches how attractive and enticing you genuinely are!
So get specific! Are you hilarious, or are you sarcastically gifted? Or fluent in irony?
Are you entertaining? Or are you a thrill seeker? There are better ways to get a little more specific about your personality traits that’ll take your profile to the next level. Upgrade your descriptors by focusing on the specifics, and you’ll have a more accurate and attractive dating profile!
If you need help, try asking a friend or family member to describe you. If they get general, ask them to be more specific with their word choices to help you out!
Or, aside from the personality questionnaires on online dating platforms, there are plenty of personality tests out there that can help narrow down your traits. Take some, and pick your favorite adjectives from the results. Use those in your profile, and you’ll know you’re presenting an accurately attractive representation of yourself for your matches to swoon over!
9. Keep it Confident
Remember how we touched upon how confidence is key? Well, sticking to a confident demeanor is essential to finding success in the realm of online dating. So anything that breaks you down instead of building you up has no place in your dating profile.
Making fun of yourself can be a valuable trait when it comes to handling life – but there’s no reason you need to prove you’re capable of doing that in your online dating profile. Yes, it’s crucial and can even show that you’re not a narcissist – but it comes off as self-deprecating, and that’s just not a good look. Someone who hasn’t even decided to date you yet doesn’t want to hear about how you’re down on yourself in any particular way.
So take out that section that describes your flaws and shortcomings or talks about how you might seem perfect, but you’re really not because of x, y, and z. You don’t need it! Maybe you really are too good to be true, but you exist anyways – that’s okay! Flaunt how amazing you are, and make no apologies for it. If there’s a place to be shameless, your online dating profile is that place.
Keep your attitude positive and confident with everything you say about yourself, and you’ll be far more likely to attract high-quality matches to your inbox. Make sure the people interacting with you are drawn to a positive-sounding person! Misery loves company, so if you put out a negative vibe about yourself, you’ll attract people who feel negatively about themselves too. Get yourself an optimistic person by leaving any aspects of a negative self-outlook out of your dating profile!
10. Choose Honesty over Hyperbole
It can be incredibly tempting to exaggerate your attractive qualities on your online dating profile. I mean, everyone’s doing that a little bit, right?
Well, even if a lot of people are, everyone else can see right through them. It’s obvious when people get hyperbolic about their lives or traits. So no matter how covert or subtle you think you’re being, your matches probably know what you’re doing.
And if potential mates don’t know when they’re checking out your profile, if things end up going how you’re hoping they will, they’re going to find out eventually. And when they do, it can literally ruin your relationship.
So go over your dating profile one more time. Is everything really accurate – or did you exaggerate in some places? You don’t want to build a relationship on even the slightest lie. You don’t want something that silly coming back to haunt you in a big, bad way.
Set yourself up for the authentic, successful relationship you’re looking for – whether it’s casual or committed, it’ll be a better time if you know that you can fully be yourself!
Leave the hyperbole out of your dating profile. Remove any exaggerations. Be nothing but the most authentic, unforgettable, and unapologetic version of yourself in every aspect of your profile’s content, and you’ll find matches and build relationships that are perfect for you!
Now’s the time to take advantage of all these tips! Spring your online dating life forward instead of just losing an hour this season. Make the most of the online dating platform you’re using by making your profile the best it can possibly be!
Refresh your dating profile by taking a fresh look at what you’ve included. Is your content as accurate and effective as it can be? Are your pictures current and captivatingly candid?
Create a new beginning for yourself by kickstarting a new phase of your online dating journey. It all starts by revamping your dating profile, so it’s as attractive and accurate as possible. Implement the info we’ve given you with these tips, and see how your online dating life improves!